Today is Halloween which means it is my birthday. It is also Gary McMillin's birthday. Gary and I were born on the same day and the same year. But Gary died years ago in the horrible years of AIDS. So now on our birthdays, I still buy him a gross birthday card and put it on my altar in front of the picture of him and his partner Chet. I am sitting at my desk with his bottle of ashes, well not all his ashes but a little bit of him is here.
I cried tears of loss and sadness, with the hole in my heart never to be healed. But I promised him before he died that I would be his witness. Gary McMillin lived, loved and was loved. I miss him more today than ever. It is a love that will have forever.
Wild Thing! You make my heart sing! You make everything grooooovy!
Chad hibiscus
from my backyard
About Me
- miss wild thing
- I live in San Jose with my spouse, 3 dogs and 3 cats. I live for Hockey and am ardent support of the San Jose Sharks and the You Can Play Project. I garden and volunteer at Full Circle Farm in Sunnyvale, Ca.
3 comments:
Dear Ms. W. Thing,
I agree with you. It's a horrible sadness the lost of a friend, but it seems that Gary's life was plenty of love and friendship. Maybe his life was better than too many others.
My congratulations for your numerous friends and for your bithday. I hope you'll have many more.
PMI
Will you send me your email address please? Love to all. xoxo
I remember Gary. Great smile! He worked the front desk at SCAP when I was an intern there. 96-97. Thanks for blogging...brings back some bittersweet memories of Santa Cruz.
Keri in PDX
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